December 4, 2016
You recognized your friendship was unhealthy, tried talking out the issues and that didn’t work, and now are missing a friend (or 4 in my case). You’re hurt, perhaps confused, and don’t know how you’ll go about picking yourself up and moving on. As someone who recently went through this experience, I hope my mechanisms for pushing forward prove helpful.
Go on a run. Really, I mean it. Exercise releases feel-good endorphins that will improve your mood. I found myself going on runs more often than usual in the first few weeks following the fallout and it helped out immensely. If exercise has never been your thing, you’d be surprised how relieved and clear your mind becomes as you engage in it.
Write about it. Whether the format be a blog, diary, or a piece of napkin, taking the time to detail what occurred and how you felt can assist towards putting the situation into perspective. Losing people who meant a lot can send your mind into a frenzy, and being able to jot it all down aids towards reclaiming order in your life.
Talk to others. Having a friend to confide in (or rant to) not only gets you interacting with others, it also serves as a reminder that you’re not alone in this issue, that you have people to talk to. With that in mind, it’s important to not overload your friend too much because while they want to help you, they also have their own lives.
Go out and explore. Ever want to hang out somewhere and get outvoted? Why not go there now? The world is your playground.
Meditate. I admittedly should meditate more than I do, but I find myself gravitating to it especially when in times of distress. Taking that time to be alone with yourself and acknowledging your thoughts about the situation can be painful, but it’s worth undergoing to emerge with a new perspective.
At the end of the day, you know yourself more than anyone and what brings you joy. You can and will recover as a stronger version of yourself in the end. It’s all a matter of whether or not you’re willing to try.